On one occasion when the Buddha was staying at Sāvatthī in Anāthapiṇḍika’s Monastery, Venerable Upananda the Sakyan went to the house of a friend and sat down with his wife in their bedroom. The husband approached Upananda, bowed, and sat down. He then said to his wife, “Please give him alms.” And she did so. Soon afterwards he said, “Please leave, sir, the alms have been given.” But the woman, knowing that her husband was lustful, said, “Please sit, sir, don’t go.” A second time and a third time he repeated his request, and both times his wife repeated hers.